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Dolores Puterbaugh'
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Psychology |
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March 2008 |
| Does psychotherapy work? Yes. It depends. What do you mean by "work"? |
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American Thought |
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March 2009 |
| "America is a country loaded with romantics, and, so, despite having our hearts broken and our waists expanded by failed food affairs, we wander through the wasteland seaking our true soul mate." |
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Psychology |
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May 2020 |
| People usually are not big on slow changes, even those that accompany miracles. Friends advise one another sympathetically during difficult life passages, but no one enjoys those halting, faltering, falling-down baby steps. |
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Parting Thoughts |
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March 2020 |
| "Creation throws all sorts of unexpected things at us--things we can refuse to see, argue against, accept, or even celebrate." |
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Psychology |
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September 2006 |
| In our death-denying society, all too often the message is: Get over it and get back to normal. The fact is, the bereaved's "normal" never will be the same. |
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Mind & Body |
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July 2020 |
| "Change . . is unpredictable and enticingly spicy or just too much . . . It [often] turns out to be something far different than you thought . . . and that could be very disappointing or a lovely discovery." |
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Parting Thoughts |
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November 2018 |
| "Life hurts. Maturation hurts. These are truths, and not terribly pleasant. Normal living creatures avoid pain; flinching is, after all, a reflex. . . . " |
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Parting Thoughts |
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May 2021 |
| "The forcast for me, for the time being, at least, is (mentally) partly cloudy with a chance of passing befuddlement. Expect periods of anxiety throughout the evening." |
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Parting Thoughts |
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May 2020 |
| People deal with fear using the type of worry that jumps from subject to subject, never resting on a place long enough to find a solution or a bearable assessment of risk. It is a mental exercise of thought with a mild degree of emotional distress. |
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Parting Thoughts |
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January 2020 |
| "Hospice care for cats, owl pellet analysis, and dinner out on Thanksgiving Day . . . . I never anticipated doing any of them [and] am grateful for all of them . . . ." |
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Parting Thoughts |
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November 2017 |
| Somehow the power to vote, own property, & be paid the same for the same work seems cast aside for the power to wear vagina hats in public, insist that tights are business trousers, & gain fame by posting indecent photos of oneself to [anti)social media. |
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Parting Thoughts |
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March 2021 |
| "Refuse to play the all-or-nothing game in which someone disagreeing on one thing means they must be punished, rejected, and even shamed. For the time being, it is going to cost you. Evil is like that." |
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Parting Thoughts |
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September 2021 |
| "When it all becomes very normal--the gators, bees, kids kayaking down the street after a rainstorm, flip-flops at church--you have become Florida Man and Wife." |
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American Thought |
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November 2018 |
| "Like Ebenezer Scrooge facing his desolate gravesite and begging for a chance to make things right, the bereaved political left scrambles for something to do, or say, that will make it all go away, will make it better, will resurrect the dream." |
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Parting Thoughts |
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May 2022 |
| ". . . God is obvious, as obvious as a gorilla in the middle of a basketball game." |
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Life in America |
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November 2011 |
| For the present time, Catholics and Jews are free to beat one another for pleasure, but may have little time remaining to circumcise their sons into the covenant. |
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Religion |
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July 2013 |
| Imagine the congregation's discomfort when they know that young Father Matthew is dating the lector who is processing in front of him towards the altar at the beginning of Mass. |
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Psychology |
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May 2008 |
| "In an environment where intellectuals assert that nothing is definite or sure . . . Emotions were handed the higher ground as pure, honest expressions of the true self rather than impositions from a cold, rational, profit-driven society." |
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Life in America |
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July 2011 |
| The typical American adult has an unhealthy, strange relationship with sleep. |
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Parting Thoughts |
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July 2021 |
| "Exactly how [the] full-frontal embrace of raw reality intersects with the bottomless relativism of our culture is a mystery to me." |
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American Thought |
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July 2012 |
| In the alphabet soup of misrepresentation, three "a" words easily come to mind: absolution, access, and automatic |
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Parting Thoughts |
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January 2021 |
| "Death from COVID, financial devastation, and briefly living like our ancestors in terms of social life and being with family are not on equal footing. We do young people harm by pretending that it is so." |
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Worldview |
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March 2011 |
| "All of this high-falutin' talk about the family of nations is silly academic claptrap unless we really see the familial in the nations: the kids, the teens, the abusive and the abused, the sociopaths and the decadent." |
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Wartime America |
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May 2015 |
| "The Lodge Act soldiers have had counterparts throughout history, but, in the U.S. wars from the mid 20th century through the current day, what sometimes is mislabeled as 'irregular' warfare includes the imperative to involve the local population." |
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Psychology |
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July 2016 |
| "The conundrum of diagnoses and the risk of damage to one's life explain why some military personnel are suspicious about seeking mental health treatment." |
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Parting Thoughts |
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November 2021 |
| "[Do] you have a precociously sophisticated kid, whose creativity lands with laser-like accuracy on the things most likely to trigger a reaction." |
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Life in America |
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November 2010 |
| "Does the cougar merit an 'atta girl' for finally staking out the grounds of sexual power and privilege previously allotted to successful men?" |
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American Thought |
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September 2009 |
| "You are needy, insecure, controlling, impulsive, attention-seeking, and otherwise immature and disagreeable to know. . . ." In other words, you fit in perfectly with our narcissistic society." |
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Parting Thoughts |
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November 2019 |
| "Do not try to impose your ways on us. In return, I promise not to move back to (where I came from) and plant a bunch of weeds and plastic flamingos in my front yard and call it landscaping." |
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Parting Thoughts |
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September 2018 |
| ". . . Now there is an endlessly shifting benchmark tht means that self-assessment segues into perpetual dissatisfaction." |
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Psychology |
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May 2004 |
| Many "therapists feel frustrated, threatened, and trapped in an unhealthy alliance" with insurance companies." |
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Religion |
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September 2010 |
| ...If everyone who is living the Jewish or Christian faiths would assert proudly that the immanent has elevated the immediate, & that this means the trouble it takes to arrange stems in a jar, light a candle, or make a cake are ways to reflect that love. |
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Life in America |
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September 2008 |
| "Rituals, including the rites of organized religion, are critical parts of life. They provide context, meaning, rhythm, and connection." |
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Parting Thoughts |
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July 2018 |
| "Perhaps you have a lot of stuff, and now you are on the tiresome treadmill of stuff-maintenance. You work harder than you have to, just to pay for the storage unit, when instead you probably could get rid of a lot of 'that junk.'" |
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Immigration Reform |
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July 2010 |
| "There is a lot of posturing about needing illegal immigrants because they will perform jobs Americans will not. That assertion is insulting." |
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Parting Thoughts |
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January 2022 |
| "In the modern era, we have an alternative to doing, and that is to assuage our concerns and our consciences by making statements and showing support. . . . Wearing the 'right' t-shirt [is a way] of punting action." |
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Athletic Arena |
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September 2011 |
| "The . . . Training [for a triathalon] is a full mind, body, spirit connection. It teaches you to break down self-limitation. It carries over into other aspects of life." |
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American Thought |
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January 2009 |
| "At one time, the virtues of honor, duty, responsibility, and respect were part of civic education and expected behavior. Failure to live up to one or more of these virtues was considered a significant deficit of character." |
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American Thought |
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January 2010 |
| "The phenomenon of the New Year's Resolution, in which bad habits will be overcome suddenly and dramatically, treats all of life as a 12-step program with 11 steps in the wash." |
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Political Landscape |
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January 2016 |
| "People do not become 'radicalized' any more than they become 'alcohol-ized' by someone else's behavior. They choose it--as [conservatives] angrily would assert in response to [liberals'] excuse-making obfuscation." |
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Parting Thoughts |
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July 2020 |
| "The personal happiness project of evicting anything negative, justified by labeling it toxic, is a profoundly selfiish form of magical thinking." |
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Literary Scene |
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January 2011 |
| In a world in which simple has becoome synonymous with either ascetism or stupidity, is if preferable to be sophisticated or simple? |
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Psychology |
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January 2021 |
| "Where does the client's rights to demand treatment end and the therapist's rights to refuse tresatment begin? Can a professional refuse to provide professional services? Under what circumstances is this ethical?" |
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American Thought |
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July 2009 |
| ". . . Two generations of 'your opinion is worth as much as anyone else's has come home to roost." |
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Life in America |
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March 2022 |
| "She needs her space and he wants to find himself. [He] will move into a smaller place near the woods, where he can stand outside with a cup of coffee in the dark and pretend to be Thoreau," but where does that leave the kids? |
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Life in America |
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September 2005 |
| "Nannies . . . are one type of secular miracle worker within a much larger phenomenon. Experts in nearly every sphere of daily life are featured on television programs that presume to 'make over' their charges." |
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Parting Thoughts |
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May 2018 |
| "Perhaps you have been scratching your hed and wondering what on earth is going on with people. There are echoes of adolescence, insufficiently mastered, in those baffling behaviors." |
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Psychology |
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March 2007 |
| "A couple that can turn one individual's expression of loneliness into an opportunity to connect more deeply . . . is a couple whose marriage will be resistant to the passing attraction of a sympathetic colleague or an old friend." |
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Life in America |
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May 2005 |
| "Differences in expectations of what parenting will bring to the marriage, and how to handle children, money, power, decisions, and chores all factor into the stresses that erod so many unions." |
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American Thought |
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January 2014 |
| ". . . One of the dangerous flaws in the modern American myth [is] that you can be whatever you want to be, if only you want it badly enough." |
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